How to deal with rejection

 5 Apr 2017

Rejection is a strange thing; it can bring our efforts for a cause to an abrupt end but it can also be the spark to fuel us on to greater things.  The outcome of rejection will depend on so many variables but it is important that we use self-reflection whenever we encounter rejection so that we don’t make rash decisions.
Don’t take it personally
If you have applied for 25 jobs or have made 50 cold calls and been rejected every time it is important that you don’t take it personally.  Taking things personally can drastically alter your mood and your attitude toward the journey of finding a new job or bringing on that next client.  Having worked in public facing sales jobs when I was younger allowed me to experience the highs and lows of success and rejection and, gradually over time, develop a thick skin that allowed me to stay in a positive mindset when staring rejection square in the face.  I would even go to the length of saying that we should all seek out situations where we might get rejected continuously throughout our lives so that we can become more proactive rather than responsive in the face of rejection.
Trust me in the world of recruitment there is an awful lot of rejection going around, we can get rejected by potential clients, have our jobs rejected by candidates, have our candidates rejected by our clients all before we have our first cup of tea in the morning.  If we took it personally many of us wouldn’t last long at all.
Alongside not taking it personally we must look inside ourselves and have greater levels of self-awareness.  Having perspective can allow us to detach ourselves from what we are doing or what has happened to us.  Yes, we should keep on keeping on in the face of rejection as the compound effect of good habits practiced over a long period will deliver stunning results but we should be ruthless with ourselves and continuously reassess our practices, strategy and products.  Rejection is one of the best forms of feedback we can hope for and can, if we let it, allow us to improve our practices, strategy and products in the long run.  For example, if I set up an email to entice new clients into working with us and send it out to 50 companies and then receive 6 replies, that might not be enough of a reason for me to completely change the whole email, offer or product but it might be a good idea to try a different subject or the opening paragraph.  If that continues over longer periods of time, then obviously, I may have to make more drastic adjustments. 
 Use it as fuel
Rejection has been a great catalyst for so many people in history and in fact it will be a great subject for another blog post but for now I’ll leave you with the fact that Arianna Huffington, the co-founder of the Huffington Post was rejected by 36 publishers for her second book.  Not an easy thing to go through but her reply ‘failure is not the opposite of success, it’s a stepping stone to success.’ Says it all.  


Great post, completely changing my attitude towards rejection.
Posted on Thursday, April 13, 2017 15:03 by John Brown

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